I started this site years ago when my babies were babies. At times it was a lifeline, a way of finding my sanity in a baby-crazy life. At times it was a curse. It helped me keep writing when I couldn’t find paid writing jobs. It helped me find my way though the stress a grief of my mother’s terminal illness and ultimate demise.
At the time it was titled (Mis)Adventures of a Work at Home Mom. I worked at home for nearly 8 years. In the last number of years with another military move, I’ve tried a bit of everything. I’ve been a stay-at-home mum, a work out of the home mum, and now I’m embarking on a new (mis)adventure, as a full-time student mum… and, heaven help me, a grandmum!
That’s right…. The Girl now has her own Dude! It still seems hard to believe but just after I turned 40, I got news that the Girl was expecting. Mini-Dude (as opposed to his uncles, Big Dude and Little Dude) is amazing. He is the happiest, most even tempered baby ever.
Grandparenthood is its own (mis)adventure and has made me even more grateful for my own mother-in-law. The thing about watching your kid parent is that they might not do things the way you might want… but the only thing you can really do is keep your mouth shut. The Girl doesn’t want people telling her how to raise her baby (and rightfully so!). It is one thing to be asked but unsolicited advice is not well-received by many people, no matter how well intentioned the advice giver.
My mother-in-law was brilliant at this. She was never anything but totally supportive of my decisions, even if they bordered on the uber granola. Cloth diapers, extended breast-feeding, homeopathic remedies, co-sleeping, it didn’t matter. She always made me feel like a good mom.
Those are some big shoes to fill mama-in-law!
That said, seeing The Girl with her baby is a beautiful thing. We may not have a lot in common and we may not make the same decisions, but we both love that baby fiercely… and that’s enough.