I NEVER love you anymore!
I’ll put you in a time out! (To his brother… and to me)
I’m NOT going to [insert task of the moment such as eating breakfast or getting dressed] until you [insert whatever treat or toy he wants like buying a new car or having a cookie].
I understand he is struggling to have some control over his life. I understand it is hard being four and having to be told what you can do and especially what you can’t do. I also understand I can’t let the defiance rule the house.
The problem is that he can’t seem to figure out what to do with his emotions. He knows he is angry or sad or frustrated but he doesn’t know what to do with that emotion. When he was little I used to teach him to hit a pillow (better than hitting his baby brother!) to try to work out the emotion… now that doesn’t cut it. He needs more of an outlet for whatever he is feeling but I can’t, for the life of me, figure what to tell him. We’ll often hug it out or stop for a snuggle and that helps… he often does it at times that are the lest convenient for me (when supper is just about ready or when I’ve just sat down to eat after being on my feet all day, etc) but I’m trying to make time to do it anyway.
Beyond that, I’m stumped. Any advice?
The terrible twos have nothing on the furious fours!
The Boy image by The Beest Photography: thebeestphotography.meganvenner.com