The Myth of the Invincible Mother

This is one of those mornings where personal well being is at odds with motherhood.

I woke up feeling terrible. All I want to do is crawl back into bed.

The Husband is at work… and dealing with his own problems today. The Girl is at school and The Dudes are in fine form. The urge to call the Fabulous Caregiver (a newish character in our lives and the surprisingly wonderful alternative to my last child care provider who seemed irreplaceable) across the street is tugging at me. The meeting at the school, the lengthy to-do list that includes buying the paint for the bathroom, the bank account and the need to get the stir-crazy Dudes out of the house on this rainy day are at war with that urge.

I find myself paralyzed with indecision and the clock is ticking steadily towards that school meeting. I look up to see the laundry getting increasingly wetter on the line and the dishes from breakfast and wish the myth of the invincible mother was reality.

Mommy guilt is a terrible thing. As much as I preach the need to take care of ourselves first, the idea of calling the Fabulous Caregiver seems a cop-out today… even knowing that, feeling like this, dark mommy is likely to make an appearance today.

For now, all I can do is force myself into the shower and put off the decisions for another 20 minutes.

What do you do? Do you soldier on in a situation like this… or are you smart enough to take care of yourself first?

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2 Responses to The Myth of the Invincible Mother

  1. Divawrites says:

    "should" should be a 4 letter word. You're sick. The paint will be at the store tomorrow, or the next day or next week. You can't paint in the rain anyway, it doesn't dry properly.Send the kids out for the soggy laundry. They will have a ball. You might have to re-wash a few pieces, but you'll probably going to anyway so no worries.If the school meeting is about your kids, go. If the school meeting is about fundraising, the bake sale or the milk program, skip it.Pick up the phone, call for back up and go to bed. You will get better much faster if you give your body time to get better. If you don't want to call in the backup, then fire up the DVD player. It won't kill them for an afternoon.Lie down on the couch. Your mommy radar will kick in if they need you, and you might grab a catnap in the meantime.3 days after my surgery, I was standing in the kitchen washing dishes. 3 weeks after my surgery I was leading Simon Says for my daughter's birthday. My body decided that it would have to get rest the hard way and flattened me with a bad chest infection. I HAD to stay in bed.It might not be in our contract, but sometimes mommy needs a sick day. Take it. They are few and far between.

  2. Atlantic Writer says:

    Good advice… I wish I'd taken it. However, I did discover a portable DVD player makes outpatients a lot more bearable. Now it's time to turn on a movie and fall into bed.

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